tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post363298507520672247..comments2023-04-04T02:59:25.554-07:00Comments on So Random!: The Weakest LinkAshleehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-53685376514695033152008-06-24T18:48:00.000-07:002008-06-24T18:48:00.000-07:00ashlee,amen sister! great comment there, too. ou...ashlee,<BR/>amen sister! great comment there, too. our 17 (will turn 18 in 2 months) daughter is working and paying for her first car. you bet she will look at that car differently.<BR/><BR/>she wants to go to college and she will put herself through college (just like her mom and dad did). we worked full time while going to school part time and you bet i valued and appreciated and wanted it!<BR/><BR/>i don't agree with giving them everything. <BR/><BR/>great thoughts ashlee, thanks, kathleensogratefultobemormon.wordpress.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141321969690842348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-13772141157458587612008-06-24T17:52:00.000-07:002008-06-24T17:52:00.000-07:00Cam, to get a little more specific here....in a lo...Cam, to get a little more specific here....<BR/>in a lot of ways technology has improved our society. Though the laws have changed, I don't believe it's the laws that are at fault. What has changed is people's perceptions of what is appropriate. The reversals that should be made aren't as general as you state. Parents MUST take a more active role in their children's lives, more specifically the mothers. Fathers have actually gotten better since the 50s {in general}, it is the mothers that have changed. Children need nurtured. They need structure. They need boundaries. They need rules. Not to the point where it's like living at military academy, but they need to be taught about reality. And reality is that if you want something you have to work for it...you are not going to get along with everyone you meet, deal with it....if you act inappropriately there will be consequences, and you should have to deal with them....money doesn't grow on trees and everything costs money, your parents cannot pay for everything all the time....<BR/><BR/>You seeing what I'm saying? Parents give and give and give so much that they are only doing a disservice to their children. They think that the supply of money is endless, and that things should come easily. They think if it isn't fun, it shouldn't be worth doing as a job. They think they are indestructible, irreplaceable, basically...all that and a bag of chips. If they get into trouble, too many parents bail them out quickly. The kids don't pay the consequences and therefore don't understand the complexity of the situation. OR, the parents turn a blind eye making children believe it's ok to act inappropriately. <BR/><BR/>Parents have changed. Parents are the ones that are to guide and protect their children. Society is ever changing and progressing. You can't stop it. It's life. :0) However, parents can ensure that their children are prepared to face an ever changing world. That they should be adaptable, but steadfast in their values and morals. They must be strong in a weak world. The tvs, video games, internet, bad friends etc....the problems I mention in my paper...parents must educate their children. We can't hide them from the world. But we can teach them what is right and wrong. We can teach them to be respectful, hard working, and good. If we can parent the way our grandparents did with our parents {in general of course} perhaps their generation can change the world. :0)Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-25060764364500856522008-06-24T09:46:00.000-07:002008-06-24T09:46:00.000-07:00But all your facts say that the 50's era family ma...But all your facts say that the 50's era family made better kids-people-society. Laws and social mores have changed dramatically since then, which has caused the problems you cite. So doesn't it follow then that in order to reverse the bad trends we should reverse the things that caused them?Cameronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06016275707476655364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-19653567429452326632008-06-20T13:36:00.000-07:002008-06-20T13:36:00.000-07:00Cam, I would say no. I think we, as a society, ne...Cam, I would say no. I think we, as a society, need to put our focus back on the family in general. Not necessarily the hard working hubby, housewife, and kiddos thogh. Life is much different in many ways as compared to the 50s, and not just in the ways I described in my paper. Life is expensive PERIOD. Some families need the second income. And, as with my case, becoming a single mother was a far better choice than staying in my previous marriage. Divorces are sometimes necessary. Do I think that divorce is overused? Yeppers, I do. But, that's for another day to discuss. <BR/>It's more the permissive parenting and lack of discipline that is at issue here. I did a darn good job as a single mommy, I think. :0) Yes, he was spoiled rotten, but there were rules and he had to obey them. He had chores {even at 3 and 4 years}. It's called life, and too many parents say, "kids will be kids". Unfortunately, if you don't teach your kids about reality, once they get into the real world, they will continue to expect things to be handed to them without working for it. There's far too much gimme, and far too less hard work, respect, and discipline. I see it creeping into my son as he gets older and all I hear about is how so and so's mom lets them do blah blah blah. It drives me crazy! I've heard how mean I am countless times. :0) I just tell him that it means that I love him WAY more than so and so's parents love them. :0) I'm mean because I care.Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-52306200800059843112008-06-20T13:15:00.000-07:002008-06-20T13:15:00.000-07:00Nice work. Very well written and good arguments b...Nice work. Very well written and good arguments backed up with studies and such.<BR/><BR/>The next question becomes, do we create public policy to move our society back to a 50's era family?Cameronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06016275707476655364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-50236530147030396862008-06-20T05:56:00.000-07:002008-06-20T05:56:00.000-07:00Amen. It's tough to raise good kids in today's in...Amen. It's tough to raise good kids in today's indulgent society.Jakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01290994546386816813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-44513312044090023202008-06-19T21:01:00.000-07:002008-06-19T21:01:00.000-07:00Yeah, I agree. Parents are not nearly as strict as...Yeah, I agree. Parents are not nearly as strict as they were. Kids pretty much get to spend their free time doing whatever they want. My kids have to work Saturday mornings on chores before we do anything fun. I get strange looks from neighbors sometimes when I tell them this. I had SO much more work to do when I was a kid though, its pathetic.Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051723455376835952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-91850937276803341022008-06-19T20:45:00.000-07:002008-06-19T20:45:00.000-07:00OKay so I say WOWZA that was a long paper but so g...OKay so I say WOWZA that was a long paper but so great!!! Way to go girl you are a brain...Montayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086370515848011286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-46488492403297305082008-06-19T09:54:00.000-07:002008-06-19T09:54:00.000-07:00statistics and research data makes me question if ...statistics and research data makes me question if i even want to have kids--like the odds are already against me having a happy decent kid.<BR/><BR/>but i firmly believe it's up to the parents to provide good examples and a foundation for "goodness".~V~https://www.blogger.com/profile/10008858304246310756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-34909867799251814482008-06-19T07:28:00.000-07:002008-06-19T07:28:00.000-07:00I am in complete agreement with you on it. I only ...I am in complete agreement with you on it. I only hope that I can raise my boys to be the strong ones and not those punk kids, but unfortunately I feel they get away with to much from me. But at the same time they will need those strong wills to face the challenges that will come their way growing up.<BR/><BR/>RachelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-73077277234737781622008-06-19T07:27:00.000-07:002008-06-19T07:27:00.000-07:00I agree with so much that you say here. And I thi...I agree with so much that you say here. And I think parents are way to permissive these days. They are so afraid to upset their kid (especially in families where both parents work) that they don't enforce boundaries, rules, values, etc.Sister Honey Bunch/Judi maloneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00908382097406758687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-413901802670044675.post-80418638995319185402008-06-19T06:51:00.000-07:002008-06-19T06:51:00.000-07:00hi ashlee,of course i still do.take care, kathleen...hi ashlee,<BR/><BR/>of course i still do.<BR/><BR/>take care, kathleensogratefultobemormon.wordpress.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141321969690842348noreply@blogger.com